What exactly is self care?
Self-care is, “The voluntary regulation of one’s own human functioning and development as necessary to maintaining life, health and well-being, as well as ongoing activity and an area of competence to be developed.” This definition was provided to VRL by Dr. LG Shanklin Flowers on the Tuesday, June 23 web clinic: On Matterness: Self-Care and Leadership. If you missed it, you need to go back and watch!
She shared that self-care is a revolutionary act, but that we often view this act as ‘indulgence’ and feel too guilty to take more time to invest in our well-being and personal growth. As women, we have been socialized with a very reduced role of what our leadership looks like. As a result, we have become trained to fight for others but not ourselves. We may often find ourselves apologizing for our ambition rather than owning it, and telling stories about ourselves as accidental leaders rather than intentional leaders. Sound familiar? What will ultimately change this deficient self-care paradigm is shifting our engagement towards learning how to put ourselves in the center of our own lives.
Here are Dr LG Shanklin-Flowers’ Top 5 Self-Care tips:
1. Be the love of your own life
Unwavering self-care beings with self-love. Put yourself back in the center of your own life. Treat ourselves the way we regard other people and dismiss negative thoughts towards ourselves.
2. Practice telling stories with you as the intentional leader
Change the narrative. Begin telling stories of us being in charge, as opposed to being the ‘accidental’ leader.
3. Make a list of your negative ‘mind tapes’ that run on continuous loop
Bring consciousness to the way you think about yourself and attribute where this voice is coming from. You don’t want to continue to rehearse those messages. Practice not criticizing ourselves and spend a full day being entirely pleased with ourselves.
4. Imagine yourself as a newborn
What would you say to yourself? Step in the right direction of valuing ourselves.
5. Surround yourself with a community of support
Create and seek out networks that act out as your very own ‘cheering section’.
Sound off, VRL Nation! What do you do to maintain your wellbeing? What do you do for self care?
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